6 Ways to Love Your Locks
A few weeks ago, one of my friends called me upset. She’s natural and has probably been so for about a year. It was about some things that people had said about her hair.
She was working, and she received some really rude comments about her hair.
“Hey nappy head,” someone greeted her.
It was charmingly followed by, “I’m just kidding.”
Another person sweetly commented, “You have no hair, but it’s cute.”
I wasn’t surprised by the remarks. Being natural myself for almost three years, I have been through my fair share of ignorant comments, especially during the first year of my natural journey. And for someone like my friend, it can be even more difficult when you feel like you’re doing the journey alone.
She was feeling insecure about her hair, and as someone who went with her own hair insecurities, I wouldn’t wish that on anyone.
If you’re dealing with afro anxieties, here are my tips to help your fall in love with your hair:
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You’re going to have to do it eventually. It can be scary, but I will tell you this: the more you wear it out, the comfortable you will feel. The more comfortable you feel, the more confident you will be.
Trust Shia LaBeouf, and just do it.
2. Tell yourself you’re beautiful
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Naturals are not told enough that they’re beautiful. That’s okay because you don’t need anyone else to tell you. Tell yourself you’re beautiful because you are, and do it every single day.
3. Do your own thing
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Finding your own style is a great way to build confidence, and if you can’t find it, create it. There are lots of avenues that you can do so. Chocolate Curls Beauty is a great place to start.
4. Get around other naturals
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There is nothing more encouraging than being around other naturals who are going what you’re going through or who have already been there. Having people that you can go to for support will help you to not go back on your decision to go natural.
There’s strength in numbers. Rely on your natural sisters for strength when you need it.
5. Be patient
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I know this is cliché, but it’s true. No matter what your hair pattern or texture is, as long as you take care of it, your hair can and will grow. But it’s not going to happen overnight.
We all go through our own hair journey. Trust the journey, and love it!
6. Enjoy your hair in every stage
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There will be days when your hair is long, and there will be days when your hair is short. There will be times when you love your hair, and there will be times when you’re not crazy about your hair. The problem is we are always too busy looking to our hair in the future.
We have to learn to be content where we are in our hair journeys. Every day is a new day, a new learning opportunity, and a new experience that we may miss down the line. Let’s not forget that sometimes it’s not about the destination.
At the end of the day, I think it’s important to remember that your natural is beautiful, and there will always be someone that says something. Aristotle said, “To avoid criticism, say nothing, do nothing, be nothing.” Well let me tell you, being natural is far from being nothing.
So to all my naturals, welcome the criticism, but don’t live by it. Know that you’re beautiful, and most importantly: we must treasure our tresses, fancy our frizz, caress our curls and love our locks.